Counseling for Anxiety
Anxiety Does Not Need to Rule Your Life. Get Anxiety Help, and Take Control.
People don’t often talk about it, but the fact is that a career, a family, and a network of relationships don’t magically soothe worries. Even high achieving career women and mothers of beautiful families sometimes need anxiety help.
Even with your big full life, you might somehow still feel unsatisfied, with a nagging sense that things aren’t quite right and the worry that bad things will happen.
Or, you might have other anxiety related issues such as insomnia, digestive upsets, skin rashes and problems with memory or mental focus that are anxiety related.
If so, you are not alone!
Almost 18% of the population may suffer from anxiety related issues according to the National Institute of Mental Health. In fact, anxiety is the most common mental health disorder in the U.S., affecting close to 40 million adults.
You do not have to suffer alone any longer.
You can have deep connections with others and a lot of fun with your kids and your spouse. You can achieve great things at work while feeling confident and proud. You can love yourself and your body and treat it well.
Psychology’s scientific research and spirituality’s age-old wisdom can give you specific tools to get there. In fact, for general anxiety, the treatment method I use has a 92% effectiveness rate, according to a review of studies published by the National Institute of Health.
Let me show you how to get where you want to go faster and easier than you might believe.
Believe It or Not, Anxiety is Trying To Do You a Favor
Your journey toward an anxiety free life starts with understanding more about how it works. Anxiety is actually part of the brain defense mechanism. When we understand how to use it and respect it, it no longer has to rule our lives.
Anxiety, also known as stress, worry, or AGGGHHHHHHH!, is a vicious cycle of emotional and physical responses. Your mind gets trained to see the potential danger in everything you see, and the thoughts you have trigger a physiological response (like stomachaches, sweating, a pounding heart, muscle tension).
Once the mind has convinced itself of danger, it just keeps thinking about it, despite any attempt to control it. It’s like standing under a waterfall of worry, unable to stop it from flowing or move away from it.
Our brains are basically ancient computers, formed to help us succeed in staying alive and procreating. They don’t come equipped with the programming needed for life satisfaction. That is software you’ll have to install yourself, through our work together.
Back in the days when we were coming down out of the trees, all we really needed was food and sex, and our brains were exceptionally well designed to help us get those things.
The anxiety that we experience warned us of dangers, and helped to keep us safe so that we could be a successful species. And it worked!
In other words, once upon a time, anxiety was a good thing that kept us safe.
The problem is that things have changed.
Our human lives have changed dramatically over the centuries. Most of the time, we aren’t being hunted by predators or in danger of starvation.
Yet our brains did not keep up with the pace of change, and they’re still focused on warning us of danger. Even when there’s no real risk of harm, our brains are constantly scanning the environment and finding any potential for pain. Since it likely won’t find a lion waiting in the bush, it instead focuses on risk of emotional harm, or rejection by our social network, and basically equates that with certain death.
For example, the anxiety you might feel about going into a large group of people you’ve never met might be so overwhelming that you avoid social gatherings. Why be so afraid of a group of people? Because in that primitive part of your brain, you believe that if they reject you, you will die. So, of course you’d rather stay home!
The trick is to learn how to override that primitive part of the brain and drag it into modern day.
How You Can Free Yourself from Anxiety
It’s simpler than you might think and in 12 to 16 weeks of work together you can expect a radical change.
There are well researched techniques to interrupt the cycle of anxiety that we will use during our time together:
· Clarify and identify meaningful goals and the obstacles preventing you from achieving them
· Training the brain to focus fully on the present moment
· Learn how to use story and metaphor to re-imagine your possibilities
· Learn specific breathing techniques that will calm your body’s anxiety signals in order to disarm them
· Develop a down to earth, easy to use mindfulness practice (pan flutes not necessary)
Don’t worry if any of these steps seem confusing or overwhelming, I’m an expert at making tools usable for smart, anxious and distracted people.
The High Price of Avoiding Your Anxiety
You deserve to have a life where you enjoy yourself and get more out of your relationships and career. Learning to manage the anxiety is vital. If you don’t, you may put your wellness at risk:
· You may find yourself at the point of leaving your family in order to quiet your anxiety
· You may be considering leaving your job because you believe that the stress of the office is to blame for your suffering.
· You may be unconsciously withdrawing from things you love because of the fears and worry that come up when you actively engage
· You may retreat into fleeting sources of relief like food or alcohol
Before you take the leap on making drastic changes like leaving your family, or suddenly find yourself with nothing left that you value because you’ve slowly disengaged, let me help you tap in to your ability to remain calm and focused no matter what is going on around you.
Your anxiety may be telling you otherwise, but the truth is that its time to try something new.
Work with me to access your internal resources and reignite your passions and get the most from your life.
I Will Support You on Your Journey to Be Anxiety Free
In our work together, you will get specific techniques and actionable homework to help you make change quickly.
Anxiety help is simpler than you might think. I find it helpful to compare to a physical workout. If you want to increase your muscle tone in your biceps, you start doing bicep curls. They’re challenging at first, but over time, you find yourself able to life heavier weights and do more reps. You see results and are more likely to keep up the new workout.
Managing the anxiety circuit in your brain isn’t all that different. In our work together, you will learn psychological techniques to improve your ability to respond to stress. One of the most powerful ways to practice this is by slowing down the mind when it starts racing. In order to achieve that, I will introduce mindfulness and meditation into our work together. Similar to the bicep curls, it might feel awkward at first. But over time, it will become easier, and you will be amazed at the difference the exercise makes in your life.
The other thing to remember is that your biceps won’t gain strength because you read about how to do a bicep curl. They won’t change if you try a set of curls one day and then stop because you didn’t notice anything happen. In physical exercise, it is not uncommon to seek support from a personal trainer.
Let me be your psychological trainer.
· I will help you recognize your triggers and make plans to manage the surge of emotions that can result.
· I will teach you the scientifically based practices to rework your neural pathways.
· I will then support you in practicing the techniques that you identify as most helpful.
· We will explore the areas of life you value most, and make sure you are working to grow in those areas.
Treat yourself to this deep development. You are worth it.
Frequently Asked Questions about getting Anxiety Help with Sonja Seglin
You may have some questions about what to expect in our work together. Here are a few answers to common questions:
How long will it take? The length of treatment varies widely, but most clients see improvement in just a few weeks. Depending on your goals, you may expect to work with me for approximately 12 weeks.
How much does it cost? Each session costs $125. For 12 weeks, $1500. This is less than the cost of a weekend getaway with your family, and will have much longer impact on your life satisfaction. If you are interested in using your health insurance, let me know and we can discuss your options.
How do I get started? To get started, simply visit my contact page or call me at 312-469-0398. We will set up an initial, free, 20 minute phone consultation. After that, we will make an appointment to meet at my office located in the West Loop, near the Clinton stop and the French Market. I have availability on Fridays, Saturdays and Sunday afternoons.
What will we do in session? First, we will pinpoint how anxiety is affecting your life. I will likely send you home with some new tools to try during the week. After that, each session will be a review of what worked for you during the week, what didn’t, and what the next steps will be.
It is not an exaggeration to say that for some people calming anxiety can be the key to saving a marriage, thriving in a career and maintaining good health.
Aren’t you worth that kind of powerful positive investment?
Once you have come out from under the weight of anxiety in your daily life, you will be free to do so much more with yourself. There is no greater investment than the one you make in your mental and spiritual functioning.
Schedule your appointment today so we can get started giving you the tools you need to create a better life.